Reflections on Attitude

This past week was...an interesting first in our new marriage. My husband and I both went through periods of grumpiness/irritability and just having an overall bad attitude. Luckily our bouts of sourness did not coincide with each other. First I took my turn, then he, and I had to finish it out with another round.

Now, my husband is pretty wonderful as he rarely gets very cranky. Usually I am the one growling and glaring at the world. So it was an experience to be on the receiving end of someone's foul mood... most definitely not a pleasant time. In the context of marriage these issues need to be dealt with quite differently I'm finding. You can't exactly leave and just avoid the entire issue. It needs to be addressed to keep the tension from escalating. By the end of the week we had apologised and worked through the problems.

Reflecting on the entire affair has brought home to me again that one's attitude is a matter of choice. It is up to us to choose our demeanor and how we react to life's little irritating occurrences. For my poor husband's sake I shall endeavour to not immediately default to negative reaction.

Your Vagina is not a Storage Unit

Just a quick holler out to all you ladies. Please, please, be careful about what you put in your vagina. I have heard many horrors stories about women who basically use their cooch almost like a purse. Change, paper money wrapped in plastic, drugs, rings, and the like have been put up there for "safe-keeping." This is not what the orifice is intended for.

Items that I have come across in my career thus far are on a somewhat tamer level. For the most part I have seen women come in because they have forgotten to remove a tampon or part of it somehow was left behind. Several days have passed and they start to notice an itching or burning. A strange odour may start to emanate from them. Let me tell you, once we've gone into the dark cavern to fish the offending remnants out, the smell in the room is usually close to unbearable. So out of concern for your health and my nose, please be very cautious about putting things into your vagina.

Experimentation

I've found that it's so very easy to slip into a routine during our times of sexual intercourse. Too often we just resort back to the same old tried and true methods. Now I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with the missionary position. But every now and again a bit of variety should be thrown in....some spice to your sex life, because who doesn't eventually get tired of blandness.

Kiss, caress each other, have him get on top...and we're done. Try to get out of your comfort zone. I know for us ladies it might be harder. Personally I'm wary of attempting new positions for fear that they may cause pain. However, how will you know if you don't try.

I will be making a conscious effort over the next few months to try a new position every several weeks. Hopefully some of you ladies will join me in this venture. I'm sure there will be few complaints from our husbands.

Body Image

Remember ladies, your husband may be insecure about his body too. He might be self-conscious about that pudge that he is developing around his middle, his height or lack there of, bald spots, the size of his member, hair in unwanted locations, etc.

Try giving him a random compliment today and see how he reacts. Just the other day my husband swept me off of my feet...literally. He picked me up, tossed me over his shoulder, and headed for the bedroom. Surprised, I blurted out, "Honey you're so strong." Well that certainly gave him a boost. He seemed to be quite pleased by the compliment and started to preen and flex his muscles.

You may not be a fan of certain aspects of your spouse's body. However what good will it do to tear your partner's confidence to shreds? Build each other up. Appreciate the good, the things that you love. Finally, if there is a health issue that needs to be addressed, do so with all kindness. Don't criticise.